It works far too often.
My lawyer warned me that the road would be long and that we might never achieve perfect justice.
I appreciated her honesty more than any false hope.
Because that was the other impossible choice: to continue to the end even though the system did not guarantee redemption, or to retreat to avoid wear and tear and further exposure.
Several people advised me to “think about Sophie’s future,” as if reporting the abuse wasn’t precisely that.
But I realized that everyone was using “future” to refer to different things.
They talked about school, rumors, family name, apparent stability.
I talked about how one day my daughter might remember that when she fearfully whispered “secret,” an adult finally acted.
One morning, months later, I couldn’t sleep and went down to my sister’s kitchen for a glass of water.
I found her there, barefoot, smoking by the open window.
She had never smoked inside the house.
Nor did she almost ever smoke.
I knew that the weariness was catching up with her too.
“Sometimes I think it would all be easier if you could just try it once and be done with it,” she told me.
She didn’t sound cruel.
She sounded defeated by my exhaustion.
“I know,” I replied. ”
But I also know that even if I try, nothing ends.
It only changes the form of the pain.”
We remained silent.
Outside, a garbage truck drove by.
